This tutorial will describe a way of controlling an iPod remote, and thus, an easy way of getting some music and sound out of your Arduino project. The remote we used was an unofficial remote I found on the worldwide auction site for around 10 USD, an opto-isolator can be found in your local electronics store.
We used a TIL116 opto-isolator between the Arduino and the remote to safely send signals in between the two. The remote works by you pushing a button which closes a circuit and that is interpreted in a certain way by the iPod. What you need to do is to send a pulse to the opto-isolator that makes it close the button-circuit, and then open it again. Depending on what you want the iPod to do, you need to send a longer or shorter pulse, i.e.. a long pulse sent to the play/pause button will shut the iPod off, a short pulse will play/pause the track.
Arduino code
/* Control an iPod remote
* ————-
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*Program to control an iPod remote through an TIL116 opto-isolator.
*The iPod is controlled by sending short pulses to the remote to activate the
*play/pause button or whichever button you may need.
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* (cleft)2006 Jonas Olson & Robert White for Simon Fraser University
* http://www.JonasOlson.se | Http://www.sfu.ca/~rwhite/
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* @author: Jonas Olson & Robert White
* @date: Dec. 3rd 2006
*
*/
For more detail: Commander un iPod avec l'Arduino
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